How to Overcome Your Fear of Blogging
Having fears and anxieties about starting a blog or new endeavour is completely normal! Learn how to overcome your fear of blogging with these steps.
Can any of you relate to the many fears that we had? We were fearful of…
- Trolls and people saying mean things about us (it has happened plenty of times)
- Not being good enough
- Starting in the wrong niche and having to start over again from scratch.
- Choosing the wrong blog name
- Failure and the resulting embarrassment from it
- People thinking less of us for quitting our “real” jobs and becoming full-time bloggers
- Most of all: Fear of putting ourselves out there and exposing who we are to the world. We didn’t have our faces on the blog for a long time because of this.
Even starting this blog (Create and Go) AFTER we had a successful one (Avocadu.com) came with a lot of new fears, including:
- People knowing how much money we make
- Friends and family looking down on us
- Customers requesting refunds, because they think we’re rich and don’t need their money
- Not being successful enough to compete with the guru “blogging about blogging” experts
We’re going to get personal on you and include a few individual fears we had as well. Personal fears (Alex):
- Nobody on Pinterest would relate to me because I am a dude and the traffic we get is 80% women.
- My writing is not good enough and people would make fun of me (I got bad grades in English as a kid and still think about it)
- We just got lucky with Avocadu.com and can not repeat it’s success
Personal fears (Lauren):
- Getting on camera in front of strangers
- Starting an Instagram account for my followers to “look up to”
- Worry about people thinking our Facebook community groups are “lame” in the beginning because there aren’t enough people to make them look “popular”
That’s a lot of fears…
Real talk: Everyone feels some or most of these fears to an extent.
Nobody just starts a blog without these doubts looming in the back of their minds. Doubting yourself is as much a part of being human as breathing and loving chocolate.
It’s just not realistic to think that you will ever feel 100% ready.
Remember that everyone starts at zero with a new blog and related social media accounts. Everyone has to build their blog and community from the ground up.
It’s easy to look at the top dogs sometimes and feel discouraged when you are first starting out (“I’ll never get there!”).
Just remember that they started at the bottom too, and with the information age growing exponentially, you have even more tools at your disposal than they did when they started!
Below are some of the best strategies we have found to deal with these fears.
How to Overcome Your Fear of Blogging
Realize you cannot eliminate fear, so stop trying.
I have read a lot of posts on this topic and I have to say, I feel like most people are doing this 100% wrong.
You cannot eliminate fear. Having fears keeps you alive.
Fear of losing your apartment keeps you paying the bills. Fear of getting fat keeps me from eating fudgesicles for breakfast.
Get comfortable with knowing that fear can actually be a good thing. The goal in life is not to eliminate all pain or fear (What are you, a robot?).
The goal is to learn how to deal with fear and act accordingly.
Confidence is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. It’s being unsure of yourself and pressing on, not hypnotizing yourself into not feeling natural feelings anymore.
Don’t be a goof.
Here is a great strategy for this…
Frame all mistakes and failures as learning lessons.
We talk about it a lot, but our first blog bombed spectacularly. Did we pack up our blogging career and head for the door?
We took what we learned from our first blog failure and made the next endeavor even better.
I never once felt like our previous blog was a mistake. It was part of the journey that got us here.
Even if your first blog does not succeed, guess what… you will learn a lot from it.
As you continue to learn, you will continue to get better and better, eventually making your own blog and giving us lessons!
There are no mistakes, only learning opportunities.
Write out what will happen to you if you do fail.
This is a little trick I snagged from Tim Ferriss, and it’s something you should try. Lauren and I used this technique when we were making the decision to quit our jobs to blog full-time (BEFORE we were making any money – scary shit).
We sat down and wrote down some worst-case scenarios. If we quit our jobs and gave this our everything, what was the worst that could happen?
- We lose our safety net (well-paid full-time jobs) to spend 6+ months blogging and never actually figure out how to make any real money from it.
- We lose a lot of money and time in the process and have to crawl back to Dallas (from Seattle, where we temporarily lived rent-free to build the blog) with our tails behind our butts.
- I have to get my old personal training clients back, and Lauren has to go back to her 9-5 as a CPA.
- We slowly have to recoup what we lost and live pretty cheaply for the next couple of years in order to do so.
- We have to tell our family and our friends that we failed.
That’s it. Notice that there is no “starvation or death” anywhere in there…
When you write out your fears, they become kind of silly.
We’re speaking to you right now from the beautiful country of Bali, where we are staying co-living and co-working with others like us from around the world.
I can’t imagine if we had NOT taken that risk when I think about the BEST things that can happen and the fact that we are living them (after just one year)!
The truth of it is, if that’s the WORST that can happen, I think you’ll be okay.
Just having the ability to read this post wherever you are means that you a living a pretty good life by the world’s standards.
A large percentage of the world is illiterate and does not even have the opportunity to read let alone blog for money… That’s just some food for thought for you.
Internalize this beautiful quote by the late David Foster Wallace.
In his book, Infinite Jest, David Foster Wallace spits out this gem:
That may be a little depressing to hear if this is your first time realizing that, but it’s capital T True.
People are not that concerned with you. They are more concerned with themselves and being concerned about what others think of them.
Ok yes, your mom cares about you and you’re still her special snowflake, but even she spends 95% of her time worrying about herself and her life instead of yours. She’s got mom stuff to deal with, honey!
People are not spending the majority of their days worrying about some dumb thing I said on Avocadu.com (our health and fitness website). They’ve got other stuff to deal with. Real life stuff.
That’s totally cool. Once you internalize this, it frees you up to be yourself and act on how you feel. Waiting to start a blog is almost always centered around the fear of what others think about you.
Hopefully, now you understand a little more about why that’s a very silly thing to be concerned with! 😉 On top of understanding fear, I wanted to give you a few reminders of why you should go ahead and start that blog today…
Why Start a Blog?
The two most important reasons for starting a blog that come to mind immediately are: financial freedom and time freedom.
A blogging career allows you the financial freedom to control your income. Sure, there are risks involved and some people are never able to make money blogging.
But if you stick with it and really commit yourself to growing your blog, there aren’t too many limits on how far you can take it.
Lauren, co-founder of this website, has now more than quadrupled the salary that she was making as a CPA – in less than two years. It would have taken her 10+ years, if ever, to achieve that through climbing the corporate ladder.
Oh, and she gets to work from home in her PJs (if she wants).
Blogging also allows you the time freedom to travel, work when you want to, and completely design your days. Since we started our blogs, we have traveled to Nicaragua, Peru, Costa Rica, Portugal, Mexico, and Bali – all while working on our blogs and earning an income.
Whether it’s traveling or just spending more time with your kiddos, you can create your own schedule. Wake up when you want to, work out when you want to, etc.
How can I start a blog and make money?
If you already have an idea of what you want to blog about, you can get started in less than 10 minutes with our step-by-step tutorial on how to start a successful blog.
If you need some additional help on what to blog about, we have some resources here that should help you out:
- Blog Niche Ideas: 3 Steps to Finding Your Blog Niche
- How to Come Up With a Great Blog Name
- 29 Best Tips for Starting a Blog
- FREE 7-Day eCourse on How to Start a Blog
Leave us a comment below if you enjoyed this article on fear of blogging or have any questions for us!
Co-Founder, Create and Go
P.S. What are the biggest struggles you are facing with starting a blog? Let us know in the comments section below, and we’ll do our best to help!